The six human needs shape your emotions, relationships, habits, and mindset, and learning how to meet them in a healthy way can help reduce self-sabotage and improve your life.
In this episode, Dr. Justin Marchegiani and Daniel Hill break down the six human needs popularized by Tony Robbins: certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth, and contribution. They explore how these core needs influence behavior, why people often meet them in destructive ways, and how unmet needs can quietly fuel self-sabotage.
From a functional medicine perspective, this conversation connects emotional stress, trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and mental patterns that can affect overall health and relationships. Dr. Justin and Daniel also discuss practical tools like Kaizen, heart-centered communication, and mindset work to help people create healthier patterns and more meaningful lives.
The six human needs are certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth, and contribution. They are core emotional and psychological needs that influence behavior, and when they are met in unhealthy ways, they can contribute to self-sabotage, relationship struggles, stress, and emotional imbalance.
Human behavior is often shaped by the need for certainty, variety, significance, and love or connection. When these needs are not being met in a healthy way, people may chase them through unhealthy habits, relationship conflict, overachievement, addiction, or victim patterns.
When unresolved trauma is present, people often react from fear instead of clarity. This can create emotional reactivity, unrealistic expectations, trauma dumping, and behaviors that damage relationships and make real healing more difficult.
Dr. Justin and Daniel emphasize that lasting transformation does not usually happen through force. It happens through awareness, personal accountability, small consistent actions, and learning to communicate from a calmer, more grounded place.
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And we are live. It's Dr. Justin Marchegiani here with Daniel Hill. Today we're gonna be talking about the six human needs, why you may be sabotaging and kind of getting to the root cause. What are the six human needs and different modalities we can do to make sure that you get your human needs. Matt, Daniel, how are we doing man Welcome to the show.
Daniel Hill: Hello. How are you doing?
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Good. How are you doing, Daniel?
Daniel Hill: Yeah good. Yeah.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Excellent. Can you provide your website, URL for the listeners here?
Daniel Hill: Daniel hill.biz. You can go and find me there [00:01:00] and you can, uh, see me on goodness knows how many socials put Daniel Hill Coaching.
So, uh, you'll find me YouTube shorts, you'll find me, um, my YouTube channel. I'm on Instagram, I'm on TikTok. And, uh, there's plenty of content out there.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Just to keep it simple. For listeners, Daniel's been a mental health kind of practitioner for the last 20 years doing all kinds of different, more cutting edge modalities like E-F-T-N-L-P, uh, different modalities, everything on the Tony Robbins side, hypnosis, et cetera.
So Daniel has a lot of cutting edge techniques to get to the root cause of some chronic mental health stuff. So we'll be kind of diving in today. Uh, so let's talk about the six human needs. Daniel, first off, what are they? Ha
Daniel Hill: ha. Uh, this is from Anthony Robbins. Tony Robbins. Yeah. So, uh, everything I, I'm, I'm British, but almost everything I've learned came from America first and back in the day I started listening to Tony Robbins, like I think you did 20 odd years ago.
And um, so Tony Robbins [00:02:00] really coined the phrase, life coach, I am a life coach. So he coined the phrase life coach, 'cause he was using all these techniques and tools in order to coach people to a better quality of life. Something that he noticed in the early, I think it was about the late eighties or early nineties, was there were patterns and something I've noticed in 20 years of coaching others, and he's quite s ominous with these six human needs so that there are four human basic needs for human beings.
And then there's he. Ascertain there's two spiritual needs. Let's focus on the first four. Every human being has a need for certainty. It's a very neandertal quality. We need certainty. Paradoxically, we have a need for uncertainty, which is variety. You know, if it's just the same over and over and over, it gets boring.
So that's the paradox, isn't it, of the human being, right? It's like, you know, we want certainty, but then we want uncertainty.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Mm-hmm.
Daniel Hill: Um, [00:03:00] then, uh, he worked out, there was a need that we all have for significance. And the other one he calls love slash connection. Why does, why is the love slash connection?
Because some people will settle for connection over love. But it's still a similar thing to connect with, uh, another human being on some level. What are the spiritual needs? Okay, well, you can meet those four in a positive way or in a negative way, but the other spiritual needs as you, uh, move forward in life and you begin to meet those positively and naturally, just going to, uh, arouse number one is growth, and number two is contribution.
So that are, you are giving back. It's not just about meeting your needs anymore, it's that you're actually giving back. Dr. Justin and I are doing that in on these podcasts by doing this. Correct. So growth, and
that's the six.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Excellent. And so let's go look at 'em outta the gate. So the first one or two I think everyone kind of [00:04:00] can connect with, right? So we have. Stability, right? People wanna feel stable, right? They wanna have a roof over their head, right? We go to back to like Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They wanna have some food, they wanna have some shelter.
They wanna feel safe and secure. I think that's kind of the stability one, right? And then above and beyond that, then it's variety, right? Maybe you want a date night, maybe you wanna a vacation, maybe you wanna mix it up. I think everyone kind of can connect that to their everyday, daily life. I think that makes sense.
Now I think we go into significance. People wanna feel important. I know Robins has talked about you can feel significant by being in a gang, right? And committing violence. Even though you're doing something bad, you still feel connection. Or you can do what we do. We can help people and we feel significant.
So just talk about there's unhealthy and healthy ways to get some of these needs met. Let's go into the significance part of the human needs and just dive more into that, the unhealthy and the healthy and how we can move up in that.
Daniel Hill: A lot of it is, um, down to where you are in life. You are gonna meet these needs regardless whether you.
[00:05:00] Struggling in life or whether you are doing really well in life. Let's take this is, uh, a podcast about health. So let's take like when you're sick. When you're sick, uh, uh, regards. Significance are, is your need for significance met by being sick? On some level, you could argue yes because you are notice, you are noticed for being sick or you are in other people's consciousness in a significant way because you're sick or you're struggling.
Yep. But equally the flip side of that is that if you could make a recovery. Would you then be significant? What about if you made like a spontaneous recovery? What if you made a recovery and then wrote a book about it and started blogging about it, or vlogging about it as, as we do in, in this day and age?
Again, you were talking about being in a gang on one level, sort of like that would be kind of, you know, almost, um, primal being part of a gang. [00:06:00] But equally, what about being a spiritual leader or spiritual author, which feels like almost an antithesis of that, that, you know, are you meeting a need for significance there?
What about being significant, literally as a mother? Of course, massively huge amount of significance that you're meeting there. Are you significant by being homeless? Of course, so we can actually argue that at every position you are in life is gonna meet a level of significance. The one thing that's really helpful, and Justin will maybe know what I'm gonna do now is the numbers game, and you literally score yourself where you are in life.
So, give yourself how much certainty is in your life, how much certainty is in your life, and. Whether that is you are going outwardly to meet that need for certainty or you literally just feel this, this certainty, give that a score, zero to 10, 10 being absolutely you're meeting that need of certainty.
'cause it's an important need, you [00:07:00] know, if you're living in, in a constant state of uncertainty. Or lack of certainty, not variety. 'cause I think we need to make differentiate between uncertainty and variety. So I'm gonna call it Yes. Different things. Certainty and variety.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yep.
Daniel Hill: So let's say, you know, if you are in a place where you feel very, very uncertain, literally you, I mean, I pick up clients like this, that there's, maybe you're about to go through a divorce, maybe you feel that you're gonna lose your job.
Maybe you feel that there's a, you're gonna lose a, a great, a ton of money there. There's something, there's a great deal of uncertainty in your life. So score that zero to 10 then equally score the amount of variety that you have in your life. How much variety. So, and we need variety. Variety is the spice of life, as they say.
I live, there's a safari park just up the road from here. And, um, the, one of the reason that they live so long is they give them enrichment. So if you are put an animal, let's say in a concrete prison, a [00:08:00] zoo, it's got no variety. It just sees a concrete wall every day. The difference with that is that it's bigger.
The fences are in a way where the animals get to see one another. It gives variety. So where are you in terms of that give, they give yourself a score. How much variety do you experience on a day-to-day basis? Uh, what about the significance in your life? How much, how significant do you feel? Do you feel a great deal of significance in your job, in your relationship?
It being a parent? If you're a parent give that a, a score. And then what about love? If you feel that you cannot score for love, then score for connection. So give that a score. And for some people it's very low for all of these things because where they are is they feel that life has literally challenge them with circumstances.
Financial might be [00:09:00] career wise, it might be in their relationship. And I think some people just find that they end. I mean, I pick up clients and they'll just say, I don't even know how I got to this place, but it's like, you know, life beat me down and one thing after the next, after the next, after the next, after the next.
But this is where you have the ability to be able to change and to go to. The outcome that you wish to experience and give energy to that outcome. What is it that you would wish, if you would like this to change? Can you imagine what it would be like if you felt a great deal of certainty in your life?
And questions asking open-ended questions, starting with what, where, when, who, how? So if you imagine what that certainty, that life of certainty is like, what is it that you need to do in order to be able to manifest that into your life? What where do you need to be to [00:10:00] manifest more certainty in your life?
What, where, where when do you need to take that action to manifest more certainty? Who could help you manifest more certainty in your life? Who, what, when, where, how? How can I manifest more certainty in my life? Do exactly the same for variety. I, I do I was saying to Justin before we started the score, I've started doing a lot more couple work where, you know, I do couple relationship coaching.
Partly because I start working with one individual. We start changing them and one thing that always happens is, ah, well we're changing this era of my life. If only you could help my wife, or if only only you could help my husband. And um, and I go, well, okay hop, get him to hop on the call. Really?
Yeah. And yep. And then I start working with them together. One thing that often comes up in relationships is variety goes down, and Justin and I have talked about this before. Oh yeah. Where, you know, natural
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: relationship, for sure
Daniel Hill: it's gonna happen. I, you know, the, the, the honeymoon period [00:11:00] disappears and you've got this other lodger that you are living with, who you see every day and your relationship sometimes just all about paying bills and it's just about solving problems.
You know, you're gonna neuro associate negativity in that, and there's not a lot of variety other than, oh, it's a new bill or it's a new problem. Well, that's no good. That's only gonna beat your relationship down. So what is it that you could do in order to create more variety in your relationship?
It doesn't, you don't have to spend a lot of money.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: And that's gonna happen no matter where you go. I mean, that's the biggest thing. It's very easy. People can kind of get that dopamine rush going from a new partner or the new this and. This person over here right, doesn't have the responsibilities or all of the mundane attached to it, so it's new.
But if you take your life and put it with that person, that all of that mundane eventually goes back there. And so the question is how can you work on that now, because it's eventually you're gonna, you're gonna gunny sack, you're gonna take all of those things and bring it with you, [00:12:00] so might as well just fix it and work on it right now.
Daniel Hill: Absolutely. I think Elizabeth Taylor married something like seven times, so you know. Oh, it's crazy. There's something in that that suggests that maybe you get to a level or I get to a place in the relationship where that mundane kicks in. Now there's gonna be an, a load of different needs there that Elizabeth Taylor, I think was in Anya type four.
So her need for significance was higher than other people. So if you can do exactly the same with significance, so, again, relationship wise, you might end up feeling, really small, really insignificant in the relationship. This can happen when a man ends up becoming a dad and the mother finally has children and, you know.
Guess who becomes more important? Who becomes more significant? The children, because the mother is, is raising the children. And the, and the guy ends up becoming sort of, oh my God, all I'm what am I, what is my role here? You know, I used to be this like hi, darling. When he comes to the door now it's oh, can you change this diaper?
Can you do this? Whatever. Oh my [00:13:00] God. Right? I've been it just becomes that, that kind of stress. So if you can understand what these are in your personal life as well as in your relationships you can work on those, you can particularly if you score it, it's like, you know, you can go, right, I need to change this.
I really need to change this. It's a very simple. Tool that you can apply on everything. And Robins is very, very good at that in breaking things down that are quite complex. And any human being could now stop this call right now. And I probably encourage you to sort of like, pause and just think, Hmm, okay, well let's just score where I am in life, how much, how much have I got with those four things?
And then equally consider the spiritual needs. Because once you start changing it and you get it in a positive way, you naturally will just fill this inclination to go to these places of growth. And, and the equally contribution because it's just a natural. [00:14:00] Um, uh, I think it's like a, a natural occurring thing, almost like, you know, uh, the, the the seeds wish to pollinate.
You know, you, they just wish to go on the breeze and, and find their way, you know, in order to be able to help everybody.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yeah, I think that a hundred percent makes sense now in general, right? We have significance that's gonna be really, well, first off, we talked about some of these things we talked about relationship, right?
Talked about that. Mundane. It's really important that we're not chasing the short term hit or whatever it is, the emotional hit, whether it's from a new relationship, whether it was some alcohol, drugs. I think if it's easy and immediate, it's probably not gonna be long lasting, and it's probably not the best way to get your needs met.
So I always talk about constructive and destructive vehicles. I mean, you can get significance or you can get connection from. Doing something adrenaline based, doing a drug, but that's a destructive vehicle. And then there are constructive vehicles that tend to take more time, but when you build them up, they're more long lasting.
And so what are some of the more [00:15:00] constructive ways that we can build up the significance in our life or the connection? I mean, so obviously on the significant side, I think just being healthy is important because when you feel healthy, it takes energy to feel significant. Like if you're in bed all day and you're, and you're sick, you're probably not gonna feel significant.
So it probably, it takes energy, it takes good brain power. Uh, it takes being able to connect and do the things you love to do or have an impact with your patients or with your kids or with your family. So I think the first thing is. To work on the significant aspect, maybe even the connection too. 'cause it still takes energy and effort to connect with your spouse is the health and the energy aspect.
Your thoughts, Daniel?
Daniel Hill: You said about if, if you are in bed all day, actually you know it's not very significant. Paradoxically, it is very significant that it's in a negative way. Mm-hmm. I've had clients that I picked up, uh, I remember one guy in Ireland, this was probably about 15 years ago.
[00:16:00] And, um, I got him to do, I introduced Kaizen to him. I, I introduced that to Justin. Yep. A few years ago he couldn't even get to the bathroom because it was so overwhelming. He had chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia in a really bad way, which is what I was diagnosed with over 20 odd years ago.
And, um, so I introduced Kaizen to him and, um, it was an enormous thing for him to be able to do that. But what, can you just
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: summarize that principle, what kaizen is? Just a quick,
Daniel Hill: so, oh, so kaizen, it's, um, it's the art of manifestation to small and steady incremental steps. You've, it's the tortoise versus the hare.
And it breaks. Someone's trying
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: to work on being healthy. We're gonna just work on drinking clean water today and maybe tomorrow just taking a few steps. It's just small little tasks that we just stack up and we add daily. Keep it simple from health
Daniel Hill: standpoint. Yeah. And they ac and they will accumulate.
The tendency with human beings regards change is that you want it big and you want [00:17:00] it now.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Daniel Hill: And your consciousness is restricted if you are, um, if you're sick or if you are struggling in life. And so part of your unconscious is still buying into. The story that you are, you can't grow beyond this and that it, you, most of those human beings that I see have very small comfort zones.
There's lots of trauma and there's also something else which we all get affected with more than trauma, which is what I call limited belief conditioning. So that you've been beaten over by life, um, enough times to be able to get to a place where you feel that you've just got very small comfort zones.
And that can affect us psychologically, physiologically, emotionally, and even spiritually. You just feel sort of like, you're massively restrained and you are, but it's also an from a, an unconscious perspective the unconscious believes that this is where you need to be.
[00:18:00] This is the safest place, and so it, it's devolved into this place through. A lot of negative conditioning and experiences that you've had. So in terms of, uh, getting that client to get well again, and, and within I think it was six months, he was able to work, walk like three miles in a forest.
This is like from. Being bedridden. And so we were using tools like EFTI was using NLP, but just from that coaching perspective, um, and I've got something on my website now. It's an NLP video. It's about taking your mind to the outcome that you wish to experience. So it's like, it's 10 years old now and I need to update it, but it's there for the moment.
And basically I talk about A DVD if people remember what those things are, that they seem to have disappeared out of the ether. Like, we've moved on. But I, I say, look, if you imagine an old DVD playing in your brain that you don't like, press the eject button, take it out and literally, break it up and magic, it's [00:19:00] magically disappeared into the ether, or it goes off to the sun and is burnt up.
Now think about a DVD that you would like. Let's call it an app now. Mm-hmm. Or whatever we can say,
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: right?
Daniel Hill: So imagine finding this app that you would really, really love to experience and you think, oh, I might buy that. But actually this is your app. This is an app that you decide. So you decide on the name of the app, decide on the color, decide on the font.
So like, like this is your own personal app that you've created, and that if you embodied that app, it would actually enable you to become the version of yourself that you know that you can be and you wish to be. It's, this is like fully optimizing yourself. And I go through the process of sort of imagine what that's like.
Think of five key feeling words that go with the manifestation of that. Having had that give each one a symbol. So I get you very much associated to that. And then. [00:20:00] What's the first thing you see? So we use VAK, which is visual, auditory. Mm-hmm. Kinesthetic. So basically you are taking yourself into the reality that this is already happened, which is get right.
Basically it's a bit of partial hypnosis. This is how NLP works, and this is how to use your mind rather than have your mind use you. So you keep going to the outcome that you would love to experience. Every single one of those, if you go into that reality, your your certainty is gonna be incredibly high.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Now what about
Daniel Hill: your variety is gonna be incredibly high and all the others as well? Go on.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: People talk about, I think it was Brian Tracy, he talked about people. Thinking about an increase in income, right? And if you took someone who was barely getting by and you just had 'em go into a space of imagining that they were a billionaire, there's this part of the brain that's just like bs Like, you know, it's, it's too far away.
And so [00:21:00] what about, but if I just said, let me just go from 50,000 to a hundred thousand a year in income, there was an easier, your brain could accept that. So what about when you visualize auditory kinesthetic, how realistic does the goal have to be? Do we have to kaizen the goals? Meaning, hey, I'm gonna go from 50 to a hundred, a hundred to 500.
Do we, do we have to kind of do incremental? Or can you make that big jump in your brain?
Daniel Hill: You can, but I personally have always worked in small steps in this way. 'cause that's what nature does. Mm-hmm. And, um, I much prefer in attracting, rather than chasing. So, uh, you could certainly manifest it.
And I've seen people do it. But you've, if I can do it from a place of being and, and a place of, uh, presence, not from a place of chasing. So I always make peace as much, as much as possible with where I am right now. This is what I encourage my clients to do. And from that place then you're making small shifts.
Some of those shifts will be, uh, internal shifts. Some of those shifts will [00:22:00] be external shifts, some will be both. Most usually they are. But it goes with the premise that I also have, which is what one small step could you take that will produce no more than a three outta 10 in resistance that can help you manifest your outcome.
And if you do that now, some people, it may be one small step that they do, which is no more than a three out of 10, that helps them go from 50 KA year to a hundred KA year. It could be for other people. It may be that they're only able to potentially create a shift of maybe 5%, but count your wins because there is always, um, the, uh, the compounding aspect and just because it, you've maybe increased from what's 5%.
So you've gone from 50 grand to 52 and a half grand. You don't know what's going on internally as well. So although people get very hooked up on the external all the time, so it's like, well, this is the car I drive, this is the house I drive. This is the part I have, [00:23:00] these are the kids and all the rest of it.
A lot of people will come to see me. Who actually have those things and the internal world is really bad. So it, I heard Jordan Peterson say this, so stop comparing 'cause that will be no good whatsoever because you'll always find somebody who's doing better than you, who's got more than you, who's more successful than you, whatever.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Also too, also too, when you compare, sometimes the, you know, the grass is always screaming on the side. Maybe because the grass is astro and totally fake. Or maybe 'cause they're actually watering it and giving it love and fertilizer. Right? It could be the fake or it could be they're actually investing in it.
And so it could.
Daniel Hill: It could, it's, there's truth in all of that, right. But actually none of it helps really. You can be inspired by it. That's great. And getting
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: your heart, I think the inspiration aspect is good. Like if you see someone, like, I think Robin's talked about it, where he would see people with great relationships and he would, he would, and then I also Bandler, he would ask them, wouldn't he?
Someone would like have a great moment, like, walk me through your thinking. What were you thinking? What was, and so they would really go through that because they thought if they can get into [00:24:00] that headspace and see those images or, or do the right actions, you could replicate it. And so from an inspiration standpoint, I think it's great.
But with social media, most of it's just pure AstroTurf and fake on that side as well.
Daniel Hill: Yeah. Well, the, to complete the Jordan Peterson quote, it was, yeah, don't compare yourself with o other people. Compare yourself with where you were six months ago. 'cause you're not in a competition. You are ultimately growing.
If we go to the, like the six Shema needs, one of the biggest things that you can actually uh, work on is that growth. The more that you, uh, invest in growth, it ma doesn't matter what it is. But it's growth, personal growth. I've been like, Justin has been an absolute addict for personal growth, right from the, I think I was 16 years old when I bought my first ever books on personal change.
I'm 52 this year, so I'm just absolutely obsessed. I will still and positively obsessed. So I will still sit down and watch an Anthony Robbins intervention, which is, you know, [00:25:00] on relationships that, you know, I've seen loads of them already, but I'm gonna watch.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Interventions are excellent. It's excellent.
Daniel Hill: They're legendary.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: I think a lot of it, it too is like, we're clinicians and we wanna see how it actually works. Like, like how do you actually get in there and make it happen and create a change in a person? That's a different thing than just reading about it. Yes, and seeing it in action is totally different.
Daniel Hill: And then I'm able to use that with clients. And so, people will not know this stuff and it's only 'cause I've sat down and listened to it. You know, I can watch an intervention and then I'll go and watch it again. Maybe not right away. But I'm just interested 'cause it's percolating in my unconscious of what they actually did.
And then I'll go and use that in a session with a client, you know, and they haven't sat down and, and listened to all this, this stuff and, and witnessed the change. And I'm able to, pick up quite advanced language patterns and, um, and see ultimately change, positive change. That's what we all wish to have anyway.
Make my life better. How do I get it better? What do I need to do? So all of these four human needs will get better. The [00:26:00] more that you grow per se, you are going to be moving a along that direction. And then naturally if you find that you know something's working for you and, and you're feeling better, the natural tendency is what, what would we do?
We might tell our family contribution. We might tell our friends contribution. We might start up a. YouTube channel or some do some social media, but we're going to get into sort of this place most likely, which is, so we're going to tell somebody why, because then we feel good. And when you feel good, you don't wanna keep it all to yourself.
You wish from your heart to share, to make the world a better place, ultimately, to raise consciousness on planet earth, which is quite limited if you look at the news each and every day. So you can decide what it is that you wish to experience in your life. I only have a smattering of the news. I don't, I, I'm informed, but not in inundated.
And, um, and I'll go on, put a video on to do with personal change or something else that I've researched in the past or [00:27:00] make something or make some content myself. There's always, um. Something, and then you naturally begin to start morphing into creating more certainty in a better way. So the more content that I've put out over time put content out there for free.
That's actually created more certainty for me because people talk about me, although they've used my videos like they have with Justin, stuff like, you know, the, when you're a contact creator, you're gonna reach a lot of people. And help people for free in, in a really positive way. And that adds certainty because it will, it'll only reflect back certainty to you.
It's the same with variety.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: And also I think connection too. I think connection massively because at some level, massive people are connected to you because they're connected to your teachings, your learning, your experience. You may be sharing your hardships and lessons that you learn and people that are applying it.
So I think there's significance and connection.
Daniel Hill: Yep.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: I think it, do you think significant and connection kind of go lockstep in stride? I mean, I think there are some people that have achieved, achieved, achieved. Maybe they don't, [00:28:00] they're missing the connection in their life. So I think significance and connection can kind of follow that same path.
But sometimes they, they may not. Thoughts.
Daniel Hill: When clients have struggled with the lack of significance and connection, it's usually because it's about them in their life and they, but
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: let's say they have significance but not connection and vice versa.
Daniel Hill: I don't think it's, uh, give me an example. Where do you think that's possible?
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Ah, someone who's just overachieving. Let's say you're the, the classic
Daniel Hill: chef. You're kicking butt.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Go
Daniel Hill: ahead. Yeah. Yeah.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Mm-hmm.
Daniel Hill: Yeah, yeah. Oh, definitely. So, yeah. Yeah, so they could feel significant in the eyes of colleagues or other people in business. Oh, I've picked those guys up before, and usually it is girls, but guys, but there are girls as well, or females who've, who've come.
Yeah, because you'll overcompensate on one to make up for the other. My dad doesn't work. It's never gonna work, so, yeah. Um, certainly with again, we were talking about this earlier, which is, uh, you, you've got perhaps there's a lot more [00:29:00] masculinity within feminine, within women now where you could go and become, you've almost morphed into sort of quite, quite MAs.
There's a masculine quality in women to get ahead in business, but they can struggle in their personal relationships. Regards connection. And one reason is because the alpha man now is. You know, it, it's not usually, back in my day it was sort of, well, my mother's day, it was like my mom stayed at home and cleaned and cooked and, and all those things.
And my dad did the masculine thing and went to work. Where you are usually gonna have in most house households, two people who work and, um, that can affect the the masculine feminine quality, the dynamic, which kind of makes it a bit confusing because she's used to being at work telling people what to do.
And guess what? Her brain kind of does that with her husband when she gets home and it's like, hang on a sec. You know, I'm almost like with another masculine manner. I know she's feminine. [00:30:00] But there can be uh. Those gender roles can, can end up becoming a little bit scheme.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yeah. I mean the, the last thing a masculine man wants when they come home is another masculine man energy.
So sometimes that can repel and that can cause women to struggle. I mean, the ones that do the best are the ones that absolutely become ultra feminine. They literally switch the other side of the fence and you have to really compartmentalize and take a hat off and put a new hat on, so to speak to really have that better success.
Daniel Hill: But we tend to have more of that now these days, I think. And, um, and that becomes, uh, quite challenging. One thing I say, sort of like in relationship. So in the relationship coaching I've done, if I've using the four step human needs, it's just gone in your relationship. Go score. You know your certainty, score your variety, score your significance, score your connection.
It's most usually around the same. But don't assume that it is. Think well. Oh, I make him feel significant. Well, how do you do that? [00:31:00] Well, I do this and I do that and do that. Okay. But you ask him how do you feel significant? And he might go I feel a six. A six. What'd you feel? A six. Well, I did all these things for you.
Well, actually, what I really wish for you to do is this. I really wish, you know, and I really wish for us to do this as a couple, and I, I really wish for us to have a babysitter, at least once a month, you know, so we can go on 12 dates a month and they don't have to be expensive dates, and they could be like a picnic in the park.
You can do one of those in the summer. It's all of these various things that you can bring in where it's, you, you start meeting those needs on every single level where and whatever it is. Even if it's, if, if your job is boring, you know, and you think quite, feel quite insignificant in your job, there may be an ability to be able to, um, to bring more certainty into your role if you ask of those questions and variety.
And can you create more significance in your, in your role Quite possibly. Or is it that you need to leave your role? Is it that you know [00:32:00] that those values are, are really low and actually you need a change? You know, you need to find something which then meets your need for growth.
I may contribution as
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: well.
What are the, what are the top things that couples can do or people, relationships they work on? The connection piece. I think the biggest thing is it's very easy for a woman to say, okay, well these are what I want. And they kind of project their wants and needs as if they're the husband's needs, and they may just reciprocate back as if they have the exact same needs.
And sometimes vice versa with men, right? Mm-hmm. Women may need love and connection and affection through dating and talking, where a man may need more intimacy and touch, and then each one tries to mirror back what they want and they put it onto that person. Or women may prioritize the kids more than the husband would, and then, then the connections there because we're not making enough time because the woman's getting more connection met through the kids and the, and the husband's not right?
And so there's all these things and there's also holding hostage, right? Well, I, I'll, I'll meet your needs once you meet mine and the other person thinks the same thing. And then you're at the [00:33:00] stalemate. Talk more about the connection, uh, issues, how to get your needs met. And also, I think we talked about the word.
What do you wish over? What do you want? So let's kind of dive into that aspect.
Daniel Hill: So. Bypass the connection. 'cause the connection will come when you go to love. The, I think he talks about that when people don't get their needs for love, then they will settle for connection like a woman. Let's say when she let's say she's become a mother and, um, she, uh, feels that sense of unconditional love for her children, but necess not necessarily for her spouse anymore.
And so she'll settle for a connection to him, but love to the children. So settle, um, for nothing other. Than love and to experience love. We, I've covered this before. We, I think we both have together. There are many ways and models that you can look at love. The five love languages is, is a really, really good one to start with because you're naturally gonna feel a sense of [00:34:00] connection through that.
And those
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: are what? Gifts. Gifts, right?
Daniel Hill: Remember them alphabetically, he says, so acts of service.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Service
Daniel Hill: that's doing things, that's like laundry. It could be equally, it might be fixing the car, it might be taking her to work. It might be fixing the shelf that needed fixing. So it's going out of your way to do something.
G gifts that can be expensive gifts. Sure. They can be, you know, it can be a, a diamonds and, and it could be, it could be a note, could be a simple note. It could be a simple note. It could be, I've said before, it could be, um, you know, your daughter goes, uh, to the beach and she picks up a, a rock and, uh, it looks like a heart.
And she says, I love you, daddy. And then that stays in the drawer, the whole of this lifetime. So that's a gift. A g uh, what else do we have? Then we have p physical touch. So that's actually, you know, in a non-sexual wake, can be in a sexual wake, but a non-sexual way, [00:35:00] really physical touch. Then q, which is quality time, that's spending time with your spouse where you feel like, you know, we are really together.
Almost like you were maybe when you started dating, you know, you're really interested in one another. So this is not sitting down watching a soap. Soap opera that, you know, or you know, a movie it's that you're actually communicating and really communicating and talking and finding out about each other's feelings and your thoughts and their thoughts about life in general and, and could do it.
So it's like, it's not about the kids, it do it. So it's, it's not about the mortgage or, whatever's going on. It's just about life in general and about dreams and about wishes. I'll get to that in a second. Then the last one is words of affirmation. So affirming how you feel the words, I love you.
But it could be, um, it could be, you know, I chose, well, putting a little note in a book and she opens it and he is like, I chose well. So all different [00:36:00] like little notes or cards or actually just saying those words. It's one of my primary love languages. I didn't get to experience it when I was growing up.
And so when I'm in a relationship and someone tells me they love me, it's like, wow. It's like bingo. It's huge. And if you don't find a partner that has a similar love language to you or is not prepared to meet it, your level of love is going to be really quite low and your level of connection is gonna be quite low.
Over the 20 years I've been working, doing this, I've had clients that, it started off well, boom, and then gets lower because these needs aren't being met anymore. But equally, they don't know what their needs are, so they can't communicate them. They just go, I dunno, I it's just really bad now.
I dunno. You know, or
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: you, you see it a lot with women more when you know they have a, a need and they just kind of get mad at their spouse that, Hey, you didn't meet this need.
Daniel Hill: Yeah,
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: proactively without me even having to tell you there. There's that too. Right? And that's where we [00:37:00] kind of talk about the wish, right?
Daniel Hill: Yeah. They don't always commun and, you know, and a man, just like a woman won't even communicate it because they don't even really know what it is or correct behind it. They might have sat on it and then end, it ends up becoming the seeding sort of attack and the guy's like, or the woman's like, you know, where's this come from?
The difference between want and wish. This is something I became aware of a good it's actually 11 years ago now, and clients would always tell me what they want and not, they'd also tell me what they don't want. And then. When they got pretty much broken down by their own mental gymnastics, they'd get to a place where there'd sometimes be this hand touching this area, or the want would certainly become more heartfelt and the voice might break.
There might be a little bit of a crack and it'd be like, oh, what is this? Well, that's a, I just through observation, through working with that many clients and language, NLP [00:38:00] neurolinguistic programming, something that I do, it's just really interesting. And then I, uh, I literally channeled from the ether.
It was, it said something that said, if you wish to master your mind, you need to let the heart be the master. And I remember going where's that come from? What it, and I questioned it and thought about it. So I'll say it again. If you wish to master your mind, you need to let the heart be the master.
So the more that you focus what it is that this is wanting, and we could say that this is a wish and this is what we want, the wants coming from the head. Only from the purpose of differentiating that these are. Mm-hmm. There's 40,000 neurons here. There's about 80 billion up here. So this is a hell of a lot of neurons that are wanting constantly.
They want, want, want, want, want, want, want. This is a little bit different because this is a wish, and you can take a breath into that. If you were to think about what's deeply in your heart and take a breath into that right now, what's [00:39:00] really true for me? What's real fear? The wanting comes from a lot of fear.
And we will want, so when we have that thing, we are gonna be safe. We are going to have maybe variety, which is an important thing. We may have significance and we might have love stuff connection, but there is something deeper than all of that. That is something that's real. So we could say fear. The acronym of fear, FEAR.
False evidence appearing real. That's a great one. So this is, so if this is false, oh my God, I do this. How many human beings struggle with fear and stress and anxiety in a day? Probably 99.999. Even those who spend hours meditating are still working on that fear or the, the mental stuff that goes on that's causing problems.
So if this is false and it keeps giving false, false information all of the [00:40:00] time. What's real, false, real. What's in your heart is real. What's coming from here is authentic, so false and real. So I, uh, invite you to use the word More Wish and why? One, why do I use Wish and why have I coined that so much?
It's also in terms of um, you think of something. I do neurolinguistic programming, but also Tony Robbins calls it neuro associative conditioning. So when you think of the word wish, I did this with a client in New Jersey yesterday. I said sort of like, all I want you to do is this. Now say it with the word wish.
All I wish for you to do is this. It. There's a slight change in equality with it. It doesn't feel so attacking and it does feel a little bit more heartfelt. Okay? So what equally we could say, you know, all I want is all I want is a deep sense of love in my life. And we could go here. All I wish is for a deep sense of love in my [00:41:00] life.
And again, there's a different quality to it. There's also the, the links with wish. And when you're a child, when there were no limitations, so think of the dandelion clock. Make a wish. Think of the penny in the well or the fountain. Make a wish. Think of the birthday cake with the candles. Make a wish. It's magical and it's exciting and it's full of possibilities.
Aladdin and the lamp, you've got three wishes. So there's something, when you start using that word, it has a different effect in your nervous system as it does in your partners or anybody else that you're in contact with. Because there is a neuro associated. Connection with that word and magic and possibilities and out and happy outcomes because it's not constricted.
[00:42:00] It is open, it is free.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: A, a a hundred percent. There also has to be a sense of accountability too, because it's really easy to just want to have your significant other just read your mind. And it's very easy when you're a victim. It's easy to be like, you should just know, you should read my mind. You should just do it.
And it takes a sense of accountability to communicate or to say, Hey, I wish. So talk about how much accountability kind of connects and matters with being able to speak your wish or to communicate this.
Daniel Hill: It's everything. It's it's, it's not complicated if you just differentiate between if you're communicating, is it coming from your head or your heart?
Just to know that it's a simple thing if you really communicate it from your heart. So
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: how do you know? How do you know if it's your head of your heart?
Daniel Hill: Put your hand over it.
Become aware of this area. And if you, if you wish to put your hand over here more, when you communicate or become aware of it, [00:43:00] breathe into it.
Okay. You know, when you're in an argument with somebody or you feel a potential argument can happen, you pause. Those of you that understand that it's not conducive to get into an argument here. Why? Because I won't get what I want, which is actually what I wish. Stop. Okay.
You're breathing in here. You're sensing this, you're taking an energy or taking your energy to this energy, in, in many cultures, this is a, this was a sacred area. Very sacred. This is where you would bow from. Or, you know, when you namaste and you go, it's not, it's, it's here. There's, this is a sacred sacred energy we talk about, um, following your bliss, following your heart.
Do what's in your heart. Why you know that there's something there. Like people say, trust your gut. Why? Because there's a hundred million [00:44:00] neurons down there. If you're gonna have a great life, it means that you need to use the intelligence in your body, which God has given you. God, like the universal that is, there's 80 billion.
That's a lot of neurons in your head, and that's why most human beings are stuck in their heads. But equally, there's a hundred million neurons in the gut. So that's approximately about N 0.1%. That's one. It's like having, uh, 799 voices in the head. And one y sage there. And then equally you've got 40,000 neurons in the heart.
That's a very, very small number again, so it's N point, nor whatever, but you can focus on the areas no different than if you paused right now and focus on the blood pumping in your right ear lobe.
If you did it for long enough, your consciousness and your awareness would go there. It's the same with your heart. If you [00:45:00] focus enough on your heart on what it is that you would wish truly experienced, you'll continue to come back to this place. And this is significantly more powerful than this. This mostly is forceful, and Justin and I have talked about this.
So the work of Dr. David Hawkins and he wrote a book called Power versus Force. So power, power versus force. We think of the, the, the being the same energies, but actually a force is I could force you to do something or I could communicate powerfully what it is that I wish to experience. So this is much more likely going to attract my outcome.
Or you could force your way to get what you want. Now, which one are you gonna do? Most human beings go from this, I've told you how many times do listen. You don't lift head, head, head, pause. Pause, pause, bring the energy down, breathe into your heart.[00:46:00]
What do I wish?
And then you come back and you communicate from here if you need to have your hand over it, but just be conscious of this area.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: So how do you get your head right in regards to, is my wish reasonable?
So let's say with my spouse, right? I
Daniel Hill: give me a
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: specific example. So let, let's say you're, you're having an issue, right? And in a relationship, and relationships are a lot of times about meeting in the middle. And let's say my wish is to have my spouse be more accountable for some of the issues, right?
But let's say maybe that's not reasonable. May, maybe you're putting 80 to 90% on her, and maybe it should be more in the middle. Like how do you make sure what you're wishing is actually a reasonable request?
Daniel Hill: I think through
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Friday. You know, like, like let's say, you know, let's say your spouse sits there and wants, Hey, I expect breakfast made every single day and a homemade in the morning.
Right? Well, that may not be [00:47:00] reasonable. Okay, got, so how do you, so does that make sense? Because I think, you know, people worry about entitlement and people thinking they deserve more. How do you
Daniel Hill: check? Well, is that really coming from your Well it's that really coming from your heart that's kind of like a little bit coming from your head.
You, when you get really correct.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yes. I, I, I would agree. I would agree.
Daniel Hill: When you get really deeply into your heart, the wishes become quite
simple.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Got it.
Daniel Hill: It's it, and it, and it would bring a great deal of connection. So you, what I wish is for my breakfast to be brought in or that's not heart. Oh, I, I, every now and again maybe, but it's what I really wish is for us to spend time together. I would really wish for that.
I really wish to know how you're feeling right now. Yeah. I really wish to know if there's anything that I can do that I'm not doing, because I love you and I wish to make this into the most fabulous, amazing [00:48:00] relationship because I am your man and I'm not leaving and you've got me for life. So
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: I wanna kind of keep myself in check.
'cause I kind of, whatever that wish is right. I try to mirror it and say, am I willing to reciprocate and equal opposite wish from my partner?
Daniel Hill: Okay.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Okay. Am I also willing to be part of that equal opposite wish?
Because I think if, if you're not then maybe your wish is not quite reasonable.
It's kind of a way I try to keep it in check.
Daniel Hill: Excuse me. Yeah, I think that it's, it, again, you can kaizen the whole thing because Yes, to begin with, it might feel like, you know, a bit of this alien concept with this British life coach telling you about getting into your heart and communicating what you wish, you know.
But actually this ju just think about it in just, just simple terms of, you know, I, I, my, when my father was dying, uh, of terminal cancer a lot of what he realized he needed in his whole life was, he said something like [00:49:00] he had some, he had a level of peace in those last nine months, even though he went through a lot of pain.
And that was, he said everything that I really, he would've said wanted probably, but everything I wanted was right under my nose. And that was his family who loved him. And he didn't realize that, and they all gathered together and those things. That I always find those things interesting when people come up with like a, a bucket list of all things that they wish to experience.
Now they can be things like driving a fast race car and uh, and all those things, but a lot of it is about personal relationships and communicating and being heartfelt in those relationships, communicating how much the, you love one another and how much this person means to you. Um, and once you begin to crack open that heart and the, the mind begins to go, okay, let's go here.
The, this, they're not big things that it that it's looking for. And in terms of [00:50:00] accountability, go in a kaizen way that you wish for this person just to be a little bit more accountable. And so, okay, so again, imagine that person is being more accountable and how are you being, so how are you being in your interaction with them?
Because if you are imagining that they're going to be more accountable, you will change and come from a calmer place. More from here in regards to creating. That change that you wish to experience with that person? If it's from your head, well, I want this person to be more accountable If it's, I wish for this person to be more accountable.
As soon as you begin to relax into that and de and breathe into it and breathe from here, you are imagining that it's going to happen and it's already happened.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: So how do we deal with people that have traumas? And so because they have traumas, they're being constantly triggered and their behavior is irrational, they're projecting [00:51:00] all of these expectations because they're trying to cover up or protect themselves from this trauma.
Now, we talked about people like this before, off the air. How do you deal with that? Is it just note, just making a note that hey, this is this issue and you need to do the work because you're getting triggered and that, and that trigger is creating this trauma dump, and that's creating an unrealistic expectation around everyone around you, so to speak.
How does that plug into this?
Daniel Hill: It plugs in, in as much as trauma will always be from the head, and it'll always be your fear that it won't ever manifest and that you don't know how to get it. And so your only way of getting it in your limited consciousness is manipulating or forcing or coming from your head.
It just, you've got to understand that if you continue to come from your head over and over in trying to manifest what you want, it won't be enough. 'cause even if you have got what [00:52:00] you want, guess what? It's just like anything else in life, it won't be enough. 'cause the ego. So how
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: do you know
Daniel Hill: satisfied
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: when I deal with people that have these traumas and they're just ridiculously unreasonable?
Yeah, of course. They don't see it. And that's probably one of the hardest things. Yeah. And so then how do you the rational person and say, well, am I responding from a place of trauma? And I think. One you have to look at, is there a history that could make sense and could have driven that?
Are you being reasonable? And I think also, um, is that person trauma dumping? Are there expectations reasonable? Are they willing to create that same equal and o opposite expectation back on them? Because I think when people tend to trauma dump or have these unrealistic expectations, the expectations tend to be projected and they tend to only be one side, and they would never rise to the opposite expectation of that person putting it back on them thoughts?
Daniel Hill: Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you how it works, which is ultimately when you are manifesting wishes, are you [00:53:00] the biggest one is that you're being true to yourself first and foremost. And what you tend to do as you become even more authentic on that journey and that path. That you begin to let these people go and you or you, you spend less time with them and you recognize that they're caught in patterns that are, um, not conducive for creating a sense of peace.
They're not heartfelt. Correct. They're the it's like a dog chasing its tail. That it's a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. That it's absolutely unachievable because even if the ego does achieve it, guess what? It will just be within a very, very short amount of time. It'll be, there'll be something else.
There'll be something else. It's not enough because the ego is never satisfied. It always wants more. The heart's different. The heart. So how do you, that's the heart can find real contentment. The heart can find real contentment. And I think [00:54:00] that's, that's something that it is a profound realization.
And through, just through the experience, you can almost ask yourself the question of like, have you had enough, have you had enough? Because that endless suffering. It, it, I've picked up clients, you know, they're very, very wealthy and they've got everything that, society would say, should make them happy.
No, nothing there because it's from here.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yeah.
Daniel Hill: It's not real enough. And, and it becomes a journey of discovery of what's actually in here. Yeah. And it, it can become quite frightening.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yeah. I think most people that have trauma know it because most people that have trauma, they've been triggered. All triggering is, is their autonomic nervous system.
Starts to go into that fight or flight, they start becoming more irrational, breathing, heavy, uh, losing their cool yelling, right? And so most people know because when these issues come up, they get triggered, that autonomic [00:55:00] response goes to fight or flight. They're not in their hearts, they're not relaxed, they're not breathing steady.
Their heart rate goes up, their blood pressure goes up, their breathing goes up. And then number two is they trauma dump. They dump their trauma on other people and they project it as if you need to manage my trauma, versus, Hey, maybe I need to look within and manage mine and I should be able to deal with my trauma in a way where it's not creating an autonomic sympathetic response.
I should be able to deal. And, you do this with NLP and EFT and EMDR, where when you talk about it and you go into these head spaces to visualize that past trauma, you're not getting that sympathetic response.
Daniel Hill: Mm-hmm.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Is that fair enough?
Daniel Hill: Yeah, it's very fair. It's, um, it's quite succinct and it's, uh, and it's very, very powerful.
It just make it simple. Just make it simple.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: A hundred percent. So I think people, like, if you have an issue, you're gonna know because that sympathetic response comes on and it's your job to fix the issue. It's not your job. The trauma dump, and just because [00:56:00] you've had a trauma does not mean other people now have to put up with that triggering and that response.
It's your job to fix yourself and not dump your stuff and other people and vice versa. I think it's important.
Daniel Hill: Yeah. I, I just think, um, the more that you continue to grow and work on yourself, you begin to realize that this doesn't work for you. It's for some people it takes a long, long time. Many, many decades.
But that's what wisdom is. That's what wisdom is. That's what um, it's missing in the, in, in the world. You know? Could we look in the outer world and, and say that the human humanity's, quite wise, probably not. Just because everyone else does, it doesn't mean that you have to do it too. This is something I've just witnessed in my own life, and this is the transformation in within clients.
It's quite deep and it feels maybe a little bit too airy fairy and, you know, what's it going on about? But actually there's, so there's something quite real in all of this [00:57:00] and it's almost like a, a remembering because, you know, you probably experienced this when you were a child and when we grow up, we end up getting caught up in, um, patterns and loops and and behavior that we do because everyone else is doing it, right.
Um, but that's why humanity struggles so much. I mean, I dunno what the, I think is it something like 10% of of humanity are on, are on antidepressants or, um, um. You know, people lean on alcohol pharmaceutical drugs, uh, recreational drugs all different types of addictions. It's always trying to get away from the, um, the mind.
And, um, but can you use your mind rather than have your mind use you? That's the premise of the work that I do. That is what, um, excellence is like. NLP is the study of excellence. So it's like, let's model excellence. What is it that you would wish to experience? Excellent. Focus on that. And then, [00:58:00] uh, you move to towards it.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yep. And I think, you know, biblically the golden rule, right? So in everything due to others what you would want have done unto you, this sums up a lot of the prophets. Yeah. I guess is, uh, important. I think it's 'cause it's really easy to get narcissistic and almost always when we're narcissistic or we're reacting from trauma, we're not living up to that golden rule principle.
A
Daniel Hill: hundred percent.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Yeah,
Daniel Hill: totally. Yeah. It's, you're in your head. Absolutely. And it's, um, you're trying to get that need of significance met because, um, the trauma, uh, or the limited belief conditioning sort of sells to you that you know, you are a victim and you are you struggling and people are out to get you.
And, you can fall into that trap. The thing is, is that, you know, you release yourself from the trap, from the prison through your heart because deciding what it is that you really wish, because you'll never get it enough in your head, will never, it's never gonna be satisfactory. You'll never scratch the itch [00:59:00] enough.
You'll never have enough money, you'll never have enough. You think of all of it, you'll never have enough certainty. You'll never have enough variety. You'll never have enough significance. Mm-hmm. And you'll never have enough. Uh, love stuff slash connection. It's, um. But if you come from your heart, you can manifest a life that you would truly wish to be living and experiencing in, in that you'll have certainty.
The same with variety, the same with significance and the same with love slash connection and through, and I, I only think it, it is through your heart when you, you, when you do this, that you then actually move to those two spiritual needs, which is, you know, growth and contribution. You wish to grow and you wish to contribute.
It's not like I want to grow. It does feel like a real, kind of, a really wish to grow. It feels like, an, an act of self love and then giving to others, it feels like an act of love to humanity. It's like, you know, let's, let's make the world a better place. [01:00:00]
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: I think that's great. I think that's excellent.
Anything else, Daniel, you want to leave the listeners with here today?
Daniel Hill: There are three videos on my website that are now live. And, um, there's one, a tapping video, which helps with trauma. There's an NLP video now that I've got there, which is about helping you to manifest your ultimate positive brain.
That's a, a video I put up there 10 years ago. I've made that live. And there's also, uh, the four step ultimate success formula that Justin and I have talked about before. That's really a coaching, um, thing. Again, I, I learned that from Roberts a long time ago, and you can use that with everybody. Ev anybody can use it and you can use it with anything.
It's, um, very quickly, clearly decide your outcome. Take action. Notice if you're further away, and if you're further away, change your approach. Be flexible.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Love it. Excellent. And we'll put Daniel's links down below. So if you wanna reach out to Daniel, he sees patients all around the world on the virtual side, whether [01:01:00] it's teamwork, Skype, WhatsApp.
He'll be able to see you and work with you. And he uses a lot of techniques. And again, we didn't really go into it too deep, but conventional therapy tends to just talk about things. And again, you can get some kind of cathartic release talking about it, but don't underestimate the fact you're not fixing the underlying issue.
You should be able to talk about your issues, but then you gotta move from the problem into the solution. That's where lasting changes. So Daniel, I think thank you for coming on today and chatting about that and links down below. Thank up. So if you guys are ready to take the next step, this podcast resonated.
There'll be some resources for you down below. Daniel, anything else?
Daniel Hill: People are always stuck in what they know. So keep working on yourself, keep growing, and, uh, liberate yourself by learning more. And the more that you learn, the more that your life will open up.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: I love it. I love it. And your website is Daniel Hill Bz, right?
Daniel Hill: BIZ? Yeah.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Okay. I'm gonna put that link plus I'm gonna put the, uh, the link for the consult down below so everyone has that [01:02:00] access to them.
Daniel Hill: You can find me Daniel Hill Coaching. You can find me, you'll find that link in all of my socials. So, uh, it's quite easy to find my, uh, my website.
Dr. Justin Marchegiani: Excellent. All right guys. Nice chatting with you all Daniel. Very nice chatting. We'll be in touch really soon. You guys have an awesome day. Take care y'all.
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